No More “Quitting” and “Losing”

Happy New Year, Stylists!

There is always a lot of pressure at the beginning of the year to declare resolutions. We often hear people talking about losing weight or quitting bad habits. And those resolutions are wonderful if they lead to you living your healthiest life, but we want to offer a different approach in 2020.

Words like “losing” and “quitting” are negative, by nature. Nobody wants to be a loser or a quitter, right? So instead of saying things like “I’m going to quit swearing” try “I’m going to work on my temper/anger/language.”

This is a small example, but you can see the difference between the two statements, can’t you?

When you say you’re going to quit or lose something, you’re putting immediate pressure on yourself. Quitting is final, and it doesn’t matter how big or small the thing you’re quitting is, it’s human nature to panic at the thought. It also sets immediate expectations, and if you struggle to meet those expectations “quickly” enough, you are more likely to abandon the resolution, all together.

We don’t want to see you do that.

We want to see all of you reach your goals this year.

When you start your resolution with “I’m going to work on . . .” it opens all kinds of opportunities for you, and it’s a reminder that meeting this goal is an every day process. It is something you have to work on every day to be successful. When you say “I’m going to work on,” it eases the pressure without changing the goal, and allows you to treat this resolution like the learning and growing process.

So here are some examples of resolutions you might make vs resolutions you should make.

Instead of:

I’m going to lose 20 lbs.

Say this:

I’m going to work on being the healthiest me I can be.

Instead of:

I’m going to stop spending money on silly things.

Say this:

I’m going to learn everything I can about budgeting.

Instead of:

I’m going to stop eating fast food.

Say this:

I’m going to spend more time cooking things I love.

Instead of:

I’m going to stop being so messy.

Say this:

I’m going to explore ways to keep myself more organized.

When you look at these examples, can you see how a few words can change the entire meaning of the sentences? The goal is still the same, but the approach allows so much more opportunity. When you say “I’m going to work on being the healthiest me I can be” you don’t limit yourself to losing 20 lbs., even if that is your original goal. You’re opening yourself up to taking better care of yourself, physically and mentally. You’re allowing yourself to find fun ways to stay active. You’re giving yourself more opportunities and eliminating the pressure of “losing.”

We hope you keep this in mind when brainstorming ideas for the New Year, Stylists.

Our resolution is to help all of you establish and achieve your goals, and we hope you come to us if you need motivation along the way.

Here’s to a successful 2020!